Learning and Relationships – Key Insights from Two Decades of Parenting

Never interrupt your child’s flow. Avoid anything that disrupts this state and do everything to preserve it. These are the most valuable learning moments. Your child will appreciate it.
Children are almost always in a state of flow. Disturb them as little as possible.
Listen to your child. Hear what they’re really saying and what they truly mean.
If it affects you, take full responsibility and look after your own inner child.
Talk to your child as you would to any other person.
Share your feelings, how things affect you.
Don’t constantly interrogate your child.
A child is always learning. They learn when you hide things, sweep issues under the rug, fail to live up to your highest potential. They learn how to interact with others, how relationships work. They learn about self-love, how to live life with joy and desire, and how to handle anger.
There’s no such thing as too much love.
Love is unconditional. It’s not tied to behavior. Never.
When you share love, it grows.
Don’t be a know-it-all.
Don’t lecture.
Explain only when asked.
Let children have their own experiences. Every person is here to have their own experiences.
Intervene only if life is at risk. Only then.
Replace “child” with “myself,” “your spouse,” or “a friend.”

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Father of 4, nomad travel family, solopreneur & indie hacker, communication expert.